Don’t ask for proof, take it for granted that the other person loves you. If you feel that your partner or spouse does not love you as much as before or their attention has reduced, you should ask them, ‘Why do you love me so much?’ Demand destroys love. Even if the love has dried up inside them, it will be rekindled. They will see your magnanimity, your understanding and will start loving you more.
You can win over everyone and every situation with love. There is nothing in this world and in your life that you cannot win or overcome with love.
Whenever someone close to you tells you a lie, it is just because love wins over truth. If truth wins, it is afraid of losing love. So the reason why a person tells a lie is because they do not want to lose the love of the other person.
When someone says something hurtful or mistreat you, they do it out of stress and ignorance. They are hurt somewhere within and that is why they behave like that.
The key to a happy relationship is based on how we handle our own mind. This is why we all must regularly practice our sadhana. We must learn how to calm our mind and relax, for a few moments every day. If each one of us can manage to broaden our vision just a little bit, I tell you, we can all bring such a great transformation in our lives. We will become happy and also bring happiness to the lives of others around us.
When love turns into bitterness, Just wait, don’t react, the bitterness will turn back into love again.
You often see that the people for whom you have done so much, they turn bitter! And you expect everyone to be in an enlightened state, that is not possible in the world. Everyone is not just going to be smiling and accepting you as you are, and unconditionally being in a giving and loving space. That is not possible. You will have to face reactions, and you should face it, that is all.
Give the person whom you love their freedom; their space. When you love somebody, you almost want to strangle them. You want to police them from morning till night. It may sound very difficult to not do this, but that is the wisest thing to do. Don’t police the person you love a lot.
If you express your love too much, the person who is receiving it doesn’t know how to respond. Just imagine yourself in that place, if someone gives you too much love, you will feel like running away. You don’t know how to respond, unless and until you are so centered and you have one pointed love towards the Divinity.
Often you like to be pleased, appeased and cajoled. So you put up a tough, upset face and act difficult to please. If a person has to appease and please people all the time, it will be so tiring. People who keep a long face and expect others to cajole and appease them make others run away. Lovers often do this. They expend a lot of energy in cajoling and this brings down the joy and celebration of the moment.
Intense longing is the sign of love. If there is love, there is bound to be longing. And if there is longing, know that there is love. These are two sides of the same coin. They cannot be separated. It is very fortunate to have such longing, very necessary. But what do we do? We are in a hurry. When a little longing arises, we want to finish it off. But that longing is beautiful, very good.